I hope I'm getting back to normal. This past month has been terrible. It was a month yesterday since my miscarriage. I feel a bit silly for being such a mess over it but it is what it is. I've been feeling hormonal, sad, depressed, overwhelmed, devastated, angry, stressed, afraid, worried... all of it... quite a bit this past month. It hasn't been fun. I know I'm extremely blessed to have two wonderful, healthy, amazing, beautiful children who came to us very easily. But in my heart I'm also devastated over our little loss. I should be 10-12 weeks pregnant, seeing a little heartbeat, watching a tiny baby move on the sonogram, having regular OB appointments. I should be wearing maternity clothes, I should be buying baby clothes, thinking about baby names, anticipating a new arrival. I've had a lot of bad days but some pretty good days.. then it will hit me hard again and I will have a terrible day. Last week was just surreal to me. With my own crazy emotions, then the Boston bombing, then the explosion in West... it was an awful, rotten, hideous week all the way around.
I tend to feel guilty feeling sad over my own problems when people all around have it so much worse. I'm having to learn that my story is my own. Yes, there are terrible, terrible situations all around us but that doesn't mean that I shouldn't feel sadness over my own situation or that I don't need to deal with what I'm going through.
I also feel guilty for wanting a third child when I know others are desperately longing for ONE. I feel silly mourning an early miscarriage when others have lost a baby at 20 weeks or at birth or have lost an older child. But, still, it what it is. This is my story and I need to feel and mourn, in my own way, to get through it and move on.
I want to encourage other women to mourn and speak out when going through a miscarriage.. no matter how early. People have been so supportive and understanding and it has been amazing. Unfortunately, many mothers have gone through the same thing and it's good to know my feelings are completely normal. I want to be able to support and comfort others as time goes on because I know that, unfortunately, this is a reality for many women.
All that said, it has been a (very sad) month now and I feel like it's time to make more of an effort to put this behind me. Yes, I know it will always be sad. But, these crazy emotions and hormones have just GOT to go. I'm tired of letting my emotions control me. My #1 goal right now is to get moving! I need it for my own sanity and, Lord knows, for weight loss and getting shape. I've decided I can't go from zero to full on